Sign of jealousy
Feelings of jealousy are not uncommon in love relationships. Jealousy is a set of emotional feelings that results when an individual perceives that the love relationship he or she has with a person is being threatened. The specific feelings are those of fear of loss or abandonment, anxiety, pain, anger, vulnerability, and hopelessness.
Of 103 women and men of varying ages and involvements in relationships , 75 percent reported feeling jealous. One-half of the respondents describes themselves as "jealous" people. (Pines and Aronson, 1983)
Of 103 women and men of varying ages and involvements in relationships , 75 percent reported feeling jealous. One-half of the respondents describes themselves as "jealous" people. (Pines and Aronson, 1983)
Individual who are more likely to be jealous are women (who have more reason to be jealous due to the higher infidelity rate among men), those who are not in a monogamous relationship, those who are dissatisfied with the sexual relationship with their partner, and those who are dissatisfied with their relationship in general.
Causes
Jealousy may be caused by external or internal factors. An external factor is the behavior of the partner that elicits jealousy. In the Pines and Aronson (1983) study of 103 respondents, most said they became jealous when they were at a party with their partner and their partner spent a great deal of time talking, dancing, and flirting with someone of the opposite gender. "I get to feeling very uncomfortable when I see him enjoying himself and putting his hands all over another women," remarked one woman. Other behavior of the partner that create jealousy include the partner expressing appreciation of and interest in someone else, having a close friend of the opposite gender, and involvement in a love or sexual relationship with someone else.
Jealousy may also be triggered by thoughts of the individual who has learned to be distrustful in previous situations. "I know my husband is faithful to me," said one wife, "but my ex-husband wasn't, and it's hard for me to trust men again."
Jealous feelings may also result from low self-esteem and self-confidence. People who feel inadequate in looks or personality may doubt their ability to get another person to love them and be faithful to them, so they are continually jealous of others whom they fear may take their partner away.
Finally, jealousy is more likely to exist when an individual has no perceived alternatives. In a study of jealousy among spouses, the most jealous were those that felt that they could not get anyone else if their partner became attracted to someone else.
Consequences
Low levels of jealousy are functional for a couple's relationship. Not only does jealousy keep the partner aware that he or she is cared for (the implied message is "I love you and don't want to lose you to someone else"), but also the partner learns that the development of romantic and sexual relationship "on the side" is unacceptable.
Jealousy may improve a relationship in yet another way. When the partners begin to take each other for granted, involvement of one or both partners outside the relationship can encourage them to reevaluate how important the relationship is and can help recharge it.
In its extreme from, jealousy may have devastating consequences, including murder, suicide, spouse beating, and severe depression. "I turned into an alcoholic overnight," said one male. "I just didn't want to be sober because I would think about her and his other fellow. almost drank myself into oblivion".
Causes
Jealousy may be caused by external or internal factors. An external factor is the behavior of the partner that elicits jealousy. In the Pines and Aronson (1983) study of 103 respondents, most said they became jealous when they were at a party with their partner and their partner spent a great deal of time talking, dancing, and flirting with someone of the opposite gender. "I get to feeling very uncomfortable when I see him enjoying himself and putting his hands all over another women," remarked one woman. Other behavior of the partner that create jealousy include the partner expressing appreciation of and interest in someone else, having a close friend of the opposite gender, and involvement in a love or sexual relationship with someone else.
Jealousy may also be triggered by thoughts of the individual who has learned to be distrustful in previous situations. "I know my husband is faithful to me," said one wife, "but my ex-husband wasn't, and it's hard for me to trust men again."
Jealous feelings may also result from low self-esteem and self-confidence. People who feel inadequate in looks or personality may doubt their ability to get another person to love them and be faithful to them, so they are continually jealous of others whom they fear may take their partner away.
Finally, jealousy is more likely to exist when an individual has no perceived alternatives. In a study of jealousy among spouses, the most jealous were those that felt that they could not get anyone else if their partner became attracted to someone else.
Consequences
Low levels of jealousy are functional for a couple's relationship. Not only does jealousy keep the partner aware that he or she is cared for (the implied message is "I love you and don't want to lose you to someone else"), but also the partner learns that the development of romantic and sexual relationship "on the side" is unacceptable.
Jealousy may improve a relationship in yet another way. When the partners begin to take each other for granted, involvement of one or both partners outside the relationship can encourage them to reevaluate how important the relationship is and can help recharge it.
In its extreme from, jealousy may have devastating consequences, including murder, suicide, spouse beating, and severe depression. "I turned into an alcoholic overnight," said one male. "I just didn't want to be sober because I would think about her and his other fellow. almost drank myself into oblivion".
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