Expressing Love
I rubbed my chin in amusement as the television as showed Mr. Perfect draping a diamond necklace around the swan neck of Mrs. Perfect – supposedly to declare his inexpressible love.
The love gifts from my beloved run a lot cheaper-always have always will, on a teacher’s salary. But I still give him my best Mona Lisa smile when I find a bouquet on the breakfast table-knowing he made a special early morning run to the grocery store to avail of a flower sale. I feel loved after a long day of housework when he leaves a note on the washing machine: “Thanks for taking a load off our minds and off our dirty bodies.”
Communication
Love in a marriage sometimes fades, not so much from angry battles, sexual frustration, financial problems, or in-law difficulties, but because it exhausts itself trying to scale the wall of a communication failure. Those who take to learn the principles of effective communication will discover, as a result, a new dimension in their marriage. Most marriage counselors list communication difficulties as a major cause of marital difficulty, but it is not only a difficulty in itself-it often shows up as a symptom of wider, more disturbing problems.
Couple
Couples who have established good communication patterns avoid using defense mechanisms (any behavior that protects the psyche from anxiety). Defense mechanisms temporarily minimize anxiety and avoid emotional hurt, but they also interfere with conflict resolution.
Living together may be defined as two unmarried adult lovers sharing a residence over an extended period of time. About 5 percent of all couples sharing a household are living together. Although most have a wait-and-see attitude about their relationships, other are committed to eventual marriage. A small number view living together as a permanent alternative to marriage.
Couples who live together are more likely to be over 25, not attend religious services, use drugs, be androgynous, and be former married. Some characteristic is related to parental modeling, and the loss of welfare payments to the female single-parent.
communication
Many reasons exist for the inability to communicate. Perhaps the most obvious is that most of us have never been taught effective communication skills. When we have never learned proper skills we continue to function in the ineffective ruts we create for ourselves.
Another reason couples fail to communicate adequately is they are afraid to share real thoughts and feelings with their mates. There is justification for such fear. Who hasn't opened up to a partner and been rebuffed? Some get hurt so badly they crawl permanently inside a shell and refuse to come out.
Marriage Life
Whether a couple go on a honeymoon or not, they will become aware of various changes in life - that will occur as a result of getting married.
Personal Changes
An initial enhanced self-concept is a predictable consequence of getting married. Your parents and closest friends will arrange their schedules of participate in your wedding and will give you gift to express their approval.
A Wife
Before 1940, a married woman's place was in the home, and although she might sell her wares, sewing, laundry, and cooking skills (this work could be done without leaving home), she was not expected to earn an income working outside the home. The exception was the immigrant, rural woman, who has always tended to work outside the home out of economic necessity.
Sign of jealousy
Feelings of jealousy are not uncommon in love relationships. Jealousy is a set of emotional feelings that results when an individual perceives that the love relationship he or she has with a person is being threatened. The specific feelings are those of fear of loss or abandonment, anxiety, pain, anger, vulnerability, and hopelessness.
Of 103 women and men of varying ages and involvements in relationships , 75 percent reported feeling jealous. One-half of the respondents describes themselves as "jealous" people. (Pines and Aronson, 1983)
Marriage Ceremony
There has been a consistent trend in the willingness of people to marry someone who does not share their religious background. Even among Catholics, who have traditionally been socialized to seek a mate of the same faith, there seems little concern that their partner be Catholic. In a study of 162 Catholic students, only 8 (5%) said they were strongly opposed to interfaith marriages. This perspective might reflect "a continued secularization of the institution of marriage and a continued diminution of the influence of the church and the extended family on marital choice and on marriage relationships".
condoms
One of the expressions used by those who like the sexual revolution is “safe sex.” Because of this term, millions of people believe that it is possible to be safe in a life that has no limits or rules about sex.
“Safe sex” refers to the idea that condoms can prevent disease. This idea is false. Many people set sick even when using this “protection.” In addition, disease is not the only bad result of such behavior. The results of breaking the seventh commandments are many and they last for a long time.
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